Grasping: the act of holding on to something, anything, under the belief that it’s the answer to all problems.
- Can’t run? At least I can ride.
- Can’t find peace in Toronto? At least there’s other space in the world.
- Rain? Indoor trainer.
- Out of coffee? Go to cafe.
- No wifi? I’ll use my data.
- No eggs? I’ll buy some.
- Didn’t get the job? Another one will come.
Alternatives are great. There’s merit to adaptability, faith and trust. My purpose in this post is about how this is all a form of filling a gap, filling a “supposed” gap. Filling space. But what happens if that space is left empty?
I’m filling space right now. My laptop’s broken, and I’m jonesin for my fingers to type in the search engine for the comfort of knowing I’m working towards finding a job on Vancouver island. So I’m writing about this feeling. I’m writing this on my phone as an alternative.
Behind the filling of space to use my phone is the filling of space to find a job. I didn’t get the job I applied for in Tofino at The Homestead. The job was at a retreat centre where I would be a yoga instructor and holistic wellness practitioner. I allowed myself to feel like this job completed me. I felt pretty down after finding out that the retreat was shutting (had to laugh bc phone autocorrected that to shitting…) down for winter and there was no job for me. I was to be the hostess and caretaker of the place during the winter season as they’re an Airbnb. What really shook me, was the I got the call (e-mail….and I called back) after sharing my social media platform info which is not discrete about my journey in fighting Eating Disorder.
And so, I felt like it might be that this was the reason for the decline of my position. I felt like💩. Is mental health battling a reason for being unhirable? I asked if there was anything in my application that I should be aware of for future applications that may have been deferents for hiring. She said no.
You know what I did then? I went in my IG and took “ED Warrior” off my description. I only put it back on yesterday.
What I realized: RIGHT NOW, I have everything I need to be the practitioner of my soul’s calling. Not when I get “the job”. Not if I eat _______. Not if I get 7.8K IG followers. But now. Any place I expend this energy in, is only a platform. But right now, this is me and I have all I need. So, damn straight I’m an ED warrior.
I can easily fill space, find alternatives with another job, a bike ride, a steak…but to sit with the space unfilled, damn.
Can I bang my head now? I think I think too much.
I’ve saved a wicked (long….read it in #pigeonpose, very worth the read) article to share which expresses this concept. I highly recommend you read it: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/connect-with-yourself-in-a-world-designed-to-distract-you/
No grasping, trusting. No biking today, no “certainty”, no saviour in any alternative, only the beat of my own heart and breath right now.
And everything is alright forever and forever and forever.