“The story I’m telling myself about this is___________________.”
Brene Brown talks about stories we make up about shit. We prefer to be certain over correct. We like definition, we like palpability, graspability. And we often have default “storylines” we turn to in order to put experiences into boxes. To create a sense of comfort. The unknown is not comfy. It’s like a turtleneck vs a cozy sweater.
Brene say we have default emotions we fall back on when we feel a rumble happening, a conflict, when we feel tested.
These stories are direct reflections of ourselves.
Here are my stories:
- Everyone thinks I’m an entitled piece of poo because I’ve fabricated this self-made struggle of coping through Eating Disorders.
- People think I think I’m entitled and self-righteous because I am endeavouring in entrepreneurship and don’t have a 9-5 job.
- I’m not pretty without makeup.
- I’ll be undesirable if I fart, poop, or have a softer tummy.
- I’m worthless unless I suffer.
- I should suffer because I don’t have a job and I’m making myself go through this suffering (wow is that not a cyclical self-defeating belief!?)
People learn how to treat us based on how we see us treating ourselves.