Prioritizing Feelings

There are many things in my life that I am (wanting to) chang(ing).

  • Better health
  • Stronger body
  • Self-love
  • Environment
  • Man
  • Career

And I’ve been focusing on these.  I am realizing that by focusing on what I want, I’m living in a state of being insufficient as I am.

Truth is, I’m, we’re, already complete, right now.  When I look at the list of what I want and where I want to go, I’m living in this state, this feeling of lack.  I’m living in a state of non-presence (either pining for what I had, or looking forward into the future for what I want).  This is taking away the power of my now.

I am learning to prioritize how I want to feel.  Instead of taking on the feelings of; lack, insufficient, sick, weak, lonely, hurt, useless, I look to feel what Danielle Laporte calls “core desired feelings”.

When I have my heart set on feelings that I want to embody, I’ll unblock myself from the “lack, insufficient, sick, weak, lonely, hurt, useless” that is serving to keep me exactly where I am at: a state of tired, sleepy, weak, lost.

So, my core desired feels:

  • Strong
  • Purposeful
  • Helpful
  • Calm
  • Beautiful
  • Compassionate
  • Creative
  • Intuitive
  • Funny
  • Light

I much prefer this list.

I feel that these emotions will flow into the goals I wrote above, but the feelings before that have no tie to this.  It’s like the quote that stripped me of my coping through Bulimia;

You can’t hate yourself into a version of you that you can love.

Honestly, this is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy stuff.  I feel that the way to bring this shift into the body is by using body-awareness sensation cues.  I am going to practice the cultivation of these feelings in meditation.  I want to see where in my body I feel peace.  I know anger pretty well – it’s in my solar plexus and throat.  I wonder if peace is in my lower belly, all cozy like a kitten sitting on my lap.  I wonder if funny is like a shoulder massage.  etcetcetc.  Feel me?

And so it is.

Hey, what’s your list?  Please share, it’s (you’re) worth it:

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